I spend a great deal of time trying to bring things into my life. I lust after new experiences, new relationships and connections, deeper knowledge, and more of all the good stuff this crazy-ass world has to offer. It’s a big beautiful party not to be missed. I love living my life this way, being open to the massive potential of the universe. I’ve gotten much better at saying Yes to life and being more of an architect of my experience here. Much gratitude for this.
But I’m also looking for inner acceptance and a deeper sense of true self-love. And bringing in all these experiences sure doesn’t hurt, to be sure, because over time they make me wiser, more fulfilled, more compassionate, and more self-aware.
But I think that inner serenity that comes from loving yourself might be more about what I’m willing to say No to rather than say Yes to. And of course saying no to things, for me anyhow, takes more balls.
In the past 2 months there have been a number of people, habits, opportunities, patterns, and so forth that have gotten the proverbial boot from my life, with good results. In my personal relationships especially I’ve sharpened my intuition as to who really has good intentions at heart, and I’m learning now more than ever that if someone treats you poorly, you walk away. I’ve been told over and over to be wise with my decisions, to be careful of who or what I let into my life. I don’t want to be ruled by fear, because life always includes hardship and pain and sometimes you have to take risks, but wherever your attention is placed, there flows your energy. Therefore fill your life only with what you really want, and a limited amount of what you don’t, as much as you have a say in it.
“Choose with compassion for yourself—where do you wish to place your focus? What plants are you nurturing and nourishing?” A very good question.
So, my challenge now is to pay
close attention to those things that hinder rather than help me, and to have
the guts to say no to them without feeling some sense of obligation to allow
absolutely everything and everyone into my literal or figurative life.
I think what we allow and permit in the form of our relationships, thought patterns, etc. is a direct reflection of how we really see ourselves. So if you want to be truly good to yourself you have to say no to all the shit that doesn't match up with what you want to experience. Let's do it.
Amen.